FMM

FMM: Describe Your Dream Mate

I'm not sure why I'm even doing this one....because I honestly don't believe a "dream" mate exists.  The man I met 20 years ago I thought was my dream.  That dream died probably about this time last year, although I tried so very hard to hang onto it until January of this year, when I realized everything I thought I knew, everything I thought he was, everything I thought we had and had shared...was a lie.  Everything he had told me all of last year was not because he valued our marriage or our life together...it was because I provided an income and insurance he didn't and doesn't have and because of our children.  He is now my living nightmare while at the same time the "dream" to someone else....

My next potential partner IF there is to be one should be:
     *honest
     *willing to prove that I can trust him
     *kind
     *able to let me express my emotions without taking offense
     *compassionate
     *caring
     *loyal
     *dependable
     *organized
     *clean/hygienic
     *able to have a good time
     *gainfully employed
     *able to take care of himself (and a potential family)
     *fun
     *religious/spiritual (and a member of my same faith)
     *faithful (by all definitions of the word)
     *able to have reasonable expectations regarding my time and obligations
     *outdoorsy
     *willing to travel
     *affectionate (in public but not overly so)
     *ok with "no not tonight"
     *good with children (but not want any more)
     *un-controlling
     *willing/able to talk and listen
     *willing to do what is necessary to work through issues, disagreements, etc
     *somewhat educated (at least able to spell decently)
     *accepting of my verbal limitations
     *non blaming
      *willing to let me be me, have me time, have my friends

****in short...not be narcissistic in any way that is harmful to himself or others****